Friday, March 18, 2011

What Are You Going to Do With That? By William Deresiewicz

The essay below is adapted from a talk delivered to a freshman class at Stanford University in May.
The question my title poses, of course, is the one that is classically aimed at humanities majors. What practical value could there possibly be in studying literature or art or philosophy? So you must be wondering why I'm bothering to raise it here, at Stanford, this renowned citadel of science and technology. What doubt can there be that the world will offer you many opportunities to use your degree?
But that's not the question I'm asking. By "do" I don't mean a job, and by "that" I don't mean your major. We are more than our jobs, and education is more than a major. Education is more than college, more even than the totality of your formal schooling, from kindergarten through graduate school. By "What are you going to do," I mean, what kind of life are you going to lead? And by "that," I mean everything in your training, formal and informal, that has brought you to be sitting here today, and everything you're going to be doing for the rest of the time that you're in school.
We should start by talking about how you did, in fact, get here. You got here by getting very good at a certain set of skills. Your parents pushed you to excel from the time you were very young. They sent you to good schools, where the encouragement of your teachers and the example of your peers helped push you even harder. Your natural aptitudes were nurtured so that, in addition to excelling in all your subjects, you developed a number of specific interests that you cultivated with particular vigor. You did extracurricular activities, went to afterschool programs, took private lessons. You spent summers doing advanced courses at a local college or attending skill-specific camps and workshops. You worked hard, you paid attention, and you tried your very best. And so you got very good at math, or piano, or lacrosse, or, indeed, several things at once.
Now there's nothing wrong with mastering skills, with wanting to do your best and to be the best. What's wrong is what the system leaves out: which is to say, everything else. I don't mean that by choosing to excel in math, say, you are failing to develop your verbal abilities to their fullest extent, or that in addition to focusing on geology, you should also focus on political science, or that while you're learning the piano, you should also be working on the flute. It is the nature of specialization, after all, to be specialized. No, the problem with specialization is that it narrows your attention to the point where all you know about and all you want to know about, and, indeed, all you can know about, is your specialty.
The problem with specialization is that it makes you into a specialist. It cuts you off, not only from everything else in the world, but also from everything else in yourself. And of course, as college freshmen, your specialization is only just beginning. In the journey toward the success that you all hope to achieve, you have completed, by getting into Stanford, only the first of many legs. Three more years of college, three or four or five years of law school or medical school or a Ph.D. program, then residencies or postdocs or years as a junior associate. In short, an ever-narrowing funnel of specialization. You go from being a political-science major to being a lawyer to being a corporate attorney to being a corporate attorney focusing on taxation issues in the consumer-products industry. You go from being a biochemistry major to being a doctor to being a cardiologist to being a cardiac surgeon who performs heart-valve replacements.
Again, there's nothing wrong with being those things. It's just that, as you get deeper and deeper into the funnel, into the tunnel, it becomes increasingly difficult to remember who you once were. You start to wonder what happened to that person who played piano and lacrosse and sat around with her friends having intense conversations about life and politics and all the things she was learning in her classes. The 19-year-old who could do so many things, and was interested in so many things, has become a 40-year-old who thinks about only one thing. That's why older people are so boring. "Hey, my dad's a smart guy, but all he talks about is money and livers."
And there's another problem. Maybe you never really wanted to be a cardiac surgeon in the first place. It just kind of happened. It's easy, the way the system works, to simply go with the flow. I don't mean the work is easy, but the choices are easy. Or rather, the choices sort of make themselves. You go to a place like Stanford because that's what smart kids do. You go to medical school because it's prestigious. You specialize in cardiology because it's lucrative. You do the things that reap the rewards, that make your parents proud, and your teachers pleased, and your friends impressed. From the time you started high school and maybe even junior high, your whole goal was to get into the best college you could, and so now you naturally think about your life in terms of "getting into" whatever's next. "Getting into" is validation; "getting into" is victory. Stanford, then Johns Hopkins medical school, then a residency at the University of San Francisco, and so forth. Or Michigan Law School, or Goldman Sachs, or Mc­Kinsey, or whatever. You take it one step at a time, and the next step always seems to be inevitable.
Or maybe you did always want to be a cardiac surgeon. You dreamed about it from the time you were 10 years old, even though you had no idea what it really meant, and you stayed on course for the entire time you were in school. You refused to be enticed from your path by that great experience you had in AP history, or that trip you took to Costa Rica the summer after your junior year in college, or that terrific feeling you got taking care of kids when you did your rotation in pediatrics during your fourth year in medical school.
But either way, either because you went with the flow or because you set your course very early, you wake up one day, maybe 20 years later, and you wonder what happened: how you got there, what it all means. Not what it means in the "big picture," whatever that is, but what it means to you. Why you're doing it, what it's all for. It sounds like a cliché, this "waking up one day," but it's called having a midlife crisis, and it happens to people all the time.
There is an alternative, however, and it may be one that hasn't occurred to you. Let me try to explain it by telling you a story about one of your peers, and the alternative that hadn't occurred to her. A couple of years ago, I participated in a panel discussion at Harvard that dealt with some of these same matters, and afterward I was contacted by one of the students who had come to the event, a young woman who was writing her senior thesis about Harvard itself, how it instills in its students what she called self-efficacy, the sense that you can do anything you want. Self-efficacy, or, in more familiar terms, self-esteem. There are some kids, she said, who get an A on a test and say, "I got it because it was easy." And there are other kids, the kind with self-efficacy or self-esteem, who get an A on a test and say, "I got it because I'm smart."
Again, there's nothing wrong with thinking that you got an A because you're smart. But what that Harvard student didn't realize—and it was really quite a shock to her when I suggested it—is that there is a third alternative. True self-esteem, I proposed, means not caring whether you get an A in the first place. True self-esteem means recognizing, despite everything that your upbringing has trained you to believe about yourself, that the grades you get—and the awards, and the test scores, and the trophies, and the acceptance letters—are not what defines who you are.
She also claimed, this young woman, that Harvard students take their sense of self-efficacy out into the world and become, as she put it, "innovative." But when I asked her what she meant by innovative, the only example she could come up with was "being CEO of a Fortune 500." That's not innovative, I told her, that's just successful, and successful according to a very narrow definition of success. True innovation means using your imagination, exercising the capacity to envision new possibilities.
But I'm not here to talk about technological innovation, I'm here to talk about a different kind. It's not about inventing a new machine or a new drug. It's about inventing your own life. Not following a path, but making your own path. The kind of imagination I'm talking about is moral imagination. "Moral" meaning not right or wrong, but having to do with making choices. Moral imagination means the capacity to envision new ways to live your life.
It means not just going with the flow. It means not just "getting into" whatever school or program comes next. It means figuring out what you want for yourself, not what your parents want, or your peers want, or your school wants, or your society wants. Originating your own values. Thinking your way toward your own definition of success. Not simply accepting the life that you've been handed. Not simply accepting the choices you've been handed. When you walk into Starbucks, you're offered a choice among a latte and a macchiato and an espresso and a few other things, but you can also make another choice. You can turn around and walk out. When you walk into college, you are offered a choice among law and medicine and investment banking and consulting and a few other things, but again, you can also do something else, something that no one has thought of before.
Let me give you another counterexample. I wrote an essay a couple of years ago that touched on some of these same points. I said, among other things, that kids at places like Yale or Stanford tend to play it safe and go for the conventional rewards. And one of the most common criticisms I got went like this: What about Teach for America? Lots of kids from elite colleges go and do TFA after they graduate, so therefore I was wrong. TFA, TFA—I heard that over and over again. And Teach for America is undoubtedly a very good thing. But to cite TFA in response to my argument is precisely to miss the point, and to miss it in a way that actually confirms what I'm saying. The problem with TFA—or rather, the problem with the way that TFA has become incorporated into the system—is that it's just become another thing to get into.
In terms of its content, Teach for America is completely different from Goldman Sachs or McKinsey or Harvard Medical School or Berkeley Law, but in terms of its place within the structure of elite expectations, of elite choices, it is exactly the same. It's prestigious, it's hard to get into, it's something that you and your parents can brag about, it looks good on your résumé, and most important, it represents a clearly marked path. You don't have to make it up yourself, you don't have to do anything but apply and do the work­—just like college or law school or McKinsey or whatever. It's the Stanford or Harvard of social engagement. It's another hurdle, another badge. It requires aptitude and diligence, but it does not require a single ounce of moral imagination.
Moral imagination is hard, and it's hard in a completely different way than the hard things you're used to doing. And not only that, it's not enough. If you're going to invent your own life, if you're going to be truly autonomous, you also need courage: moral courage. The courage to act on your values in the face of what everyone's going to say and do to try to make you change your mind. Because they're not going to like it. Morally courageous individuals tend to make the people around them very uncomfortable. They don't fit in with everybody else's ideas about the way the world is supposed to work, and still worse, they make them feel insecure about the choices that they themselves have made—or failed to make. People don't mind being in prison as long as no one else is free. But stage a jailbreak, and everybody else freaks out.
In A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, James Joyce has Stephen Dedalus famously say, about growing up in Ireland in the late 19th century, "When the soul of a man is born in this country there are nets flung at it to hold it back from flight. You talk to me of nationality, language, religion. I shall try to fly by those nets."
Today there are other nets. One of those nets is a term that I've heard again and again as I've talked with students about these things. That term is "self-indulgent." "Isn't it self-indulgent to try to live the life of the mind when there are so many other things I could be doing with my degree?" "Wouldn't it be self-indulgent to pursue painting after I graduate instead of getting a real job?"
These are the kinds of questions that young people find themselves being asked today if they even think about doing something a little bit different. Even worse, the kinds of questions they are made to feel compelled to ask themselves. Many students have spoken to me, as they navigated their senior years, about the pressure they felt from their peers—from their peers—to justify a creative or intellectual life. You're made to feel like you're crazy: crazy to forsake the sure thing, crazy to think it could work, crazy to imagine that you even have a right to try.
Think of what we've come to. It is one of the great testaments to the intellectual—and moral, and spiritual—poverty of American society that it makes its most intelligent young people feel like they're being self-indulgent if they pursue their curiosity. You are all told that you're supposed to go to college, but you're also told that you're being "self-indulgent" if you actually want to get an education. Or even worse, give yourself one. As opposed to what? Going into consulting isn't self-indulgent? Going into finance isn't self-indulgent? Going into law, like most of the people who do, in order to make yourself rich, isn't self-indulgent? It's not OK to play music, or write essays, because what good does that really do anyone, but it is OK to work for a hedge fund. It's selfish to pursue your passion, unless it's also going to make you a lot of money, in which case it's not selfish at all.
Do you see how absurd this is? But these are the nets that are flung at you, and this is what I mean by the need for courage. And it's a never-ending proc­ess. At that Harvard event two years ago, one person said, about my assertion that college students needed to keep rethinking the decisions they've made about their lives, "We already made our decisions, back in middle school, when we decided to be the kind of high achievers who get into Harvard." And I thought, who wants to live with the decisions that they made when they were 12? Let me put that another way. Who wants to let a 12-year-old decide what they're going to do for the rest of their lives? Or a 19-year-old, for that matter?
All you can decide is what you think now, and you need to be prepared to keep making revisions. Because let me be clear. I'm not trying to persuade you all to become writers or musicians. Being a doctor or a lawyer, a scientist or an engineer or an economist—these are all valid and admirable choices. All I'm saying is that you need to think about it, and think about it hard. All I'm asking is that you make your choices for the right reasons. All I'm urging is that you recognize and embrace your moral freedom.
And most of all, don't play it safe. Resist the seductions of the cowardly values our society has come to prize so highly: comfort, convenience, security, predictability, control. These, too, are nets. Above all, resist the fear of failure. Yes, you will make mistakes. But they will be your mistakes, not someone else's. And you will survive them, and you will know yourself better for having made them, and you will be a fuller and a stronger person.
It's been said—and I'm not sure I agree with this, but it's an idea that's worth taking seriously—that you guys belong to a "postemotional" generation. That you prefer to avoid messy and turbulent and powerful feelings. But I say, don't shy away from the challenging parts of yourself. Don't deny the desires and curiosities, the doubts and dissatisfactions, the joy and the darkness, that might knock you off the path that you have set for yourself. College is just beginning for you, adulthood is just beginning. Open yourself to the possibilities they represent. The world is much larger than you can imagine right now. Which means, you are much larger than you can imagine.
William Deresiewicz is a contributing writer for The Nation and a contributing editor at The New Republic. His next book, A Jane Austen Education, will be published next year by Penguin Press.

William Deresiewicz 2010年在斯坦福大学的演讲:
我的题目提出的问题,当然,是一个传统地面向人文科学的专业所提出的问题:学习文学、艺术或哲学能有什么实效价值(practical value)?你肯定纳闷,我为什么在以科技堡垒而闻名的斯坦福提出这个问题呢?大学学位给人带来众多机会,这还有什么需要质疑的吗?


但那不是我提出的问题。这里的“做(do)”并不是指工作(job),“那(that)”并不是指你的专业(major)。]我们不仅仅是我们的工作,教育的全部也不仅仅是一门主修专业。(We are more than our jobs, and education is more than a major.)教育也不仅仅是上大学,甚至也不仅是从幼儿园到研究生院的正规学校教育。我说的“你要做什么”的意思是你要过什么样的生活(what kind of life are you going to lead?)?我所说的“那”指的是你得到的正规或非正规的任何训练,那些把你送到这里来的东西,你在学校的剩余时间里将要做的任何事。

我们不妨先来讨论你是如何考入斯坦福的吧。

你能进入这所大学说明你在某些技能(skills)上非常出色。你的父母在你很小的时候就鼓励你追求卓越(excel)。他们送你到好学校,老师的鼓励和同伴的榜样激励你更努力地学习。除了在所有课程上都出类拔萃之外,你还注重修养的提高,充满热情地培养了一些特殊兴趣。你用几个暑假在本地大学里预习大学课程,或参加专门技能的夏令营或训练营。你学习刻苦、精力集中、全力以赴。所以,你在数学、钢琴、曲棍球等众多方面都很出色。

掌握这些技能当然没有错,全力以赴成为最优秀的人也没有错。错误之处在于这个体系遗漏的地方:即任何别的东西(everything else)。我并不是说因为选择钻研数学,你在充分发展话语表达能力的潜力方面就失败了;也不是说除了集中精力学习地质学之外,你还应该研究政治学;也不是说你在学习钢琴时还应该学吹笛子。毕竟,专业化的本质就是要专业性。可是,专业化的问题在于它把你的注意力限制在一个点上,你所已知的和你想探知的东西都限界于此(it narrows your attention to the point where all you know about and all you want to know about)。真的,你能知道的一切就只是你的专业了。

专业化(specialization)的问题是它让你成为专家(specialist),切断你与世界上其他任何东西的联系,不仅如此,还切断你与自身其他潜能的联系(It cuts you off, not only from everything else in the world, but also from everything else in yourself.)。当然,作为大一新生,你的专业才刚刚开始。在你走向所渴望的成功之路的过程中,进入斯坦福是你踏上的众多阶梯中的一个。再读三年大学,三五年法学院或医学院或博士,然后再干若干年住院实习生或博士后或助理教授。总而言之,进入越来越狭窄的专业化轨道。你可能从政治学专业的学生变成了律师或者公司代理人,再变成专门研究消费品领域的税收问题的公司代理人。你从生物化学专业的学生变成了博士,再变成心脏病学家,再变成专门做心脏瓣膜移植的心脏病医生。

再次,做这些事没有任何错。只不过,在你越来越深入地进入这个轨道后,再记得你最初的样子(remember who you once were)就益发困难了。你开始怀念那个曾经谈钢琴和打曲棍球的人,思考那个曾经和朋友热烈讨论人生和政治以及在课堂内容的人在做什么。那个活泼能干的19岁年轻人已经变成了只想一件事的40岁中年人。(The 19-year-old who could do so many things, and was interested in so many things, has become a 40-year-old who thinks about only one thing.)难怪年长的人这么乏味无趣。(That's why older people are so boring.)“哎,我爸爸曾经是非常聪明的人,但他现在除了谈论钱和肝脏外再无其他。” ("Hey, my dad's a smart guy, but all he talks about is money and livers.")

还有另外一个问题。

或许你从来没有想过当心脏病医生,只是碰巧发生了而已。随大流最容易,这就是体制的力量。(It's easy, the way the system works, to simply go with the flow.)我不是说这个工作容易,而是说做出这种选择很容易。或者,这些根本就不是自己做出的选择。你来到斯坦福这样的名牌大学是因为聪明的孩子都这样(because that's what smart kids do.)。你考入医学院是因为它的地位高,人人都羡慕。你选择心脏病学是因为当心脏病医生的待遇很好。你做那些事能给你带来好处,让你的父母感到骄傲,令你的老师感到高兴,也让朋友们羡慕。从你上高中开始,甚至初中开始,你的唯一目标就是进入最好的大学,所以现在你会很自然地从“进入下个阶段”的角度看待人生(you naturally think about your life in terms of
"getting into" whatever's next)。“进入”就是能力的证明,“进入”就是胜利。先进入斯坦福,然后是约翰霍普金斯医学院,再进入旧金山大学做实习医生等。或者进入密歇根法学院,或高盛集团(GoldmanSachs)或麦肯锡公司(McKinsey)或别的什么地方。你迈出了这一步,下一步似乎就必然在等着你。
也许你确实想当心脏病学家。十岁时就梦想成为医生,即使你根本不知道医生意味着什么。你在上学期间全身心都在朝着这个目标前进。你拒绝了上大学预修历史课(AP history)时的美妙体验的诱惑,也无视你在医学院第四年的儿科学轮流值班时照看孩子的可怕感受。

但不管是什么,要么因为你随大流,要么因为你早就选定了道路,20年后某天醒来,你或许会纳闷到底发生了什么:你怎么变成现在这个样子,这一切意味着什么。不是它是什么,不在于它是否“大画面”(big picture)而是它对你意味着什么。 你为什么做它,到底为了什么。这听起来像老生常谈,但这个被称为中年危机(midlife crisis)的“有一天醒来”("waking up one day")一直就发生在每个人身上。

不过,还有另外一种情况,或许中年危机并不会发生在你身上。

让我通过告诉你们一个同伴的故事来解释我的意思吧,即她没有遭遇的情况。几年前,我在哈佛参加了一次小组讨论会,谈到这些问题。后来参加这次讨论的一个学生给我联系,这个哈佛学生正在写有关哈佛的毕业论文,讨论哈佛是如何给学生灌输她所说的“自我效能”(self-efficacy),一种相信自己能做一切的意识。自我效能或更熟悉的说法“自我尊重”(self-esteem)。她说在考试中得了优秀的有些学生会说“我得优秀是因为试题很简单。” 但另外一些学生,那种具有自我效能感或自我尊重的学生,考试得了优秀会说“我得优秀是因为我聪明。”
再次,认为得了优秀是因为自己聪明的想法并没有任何错,不过,哈佛学生没有认识到的是他们没有第三种选择(a third alternative)。当我指出这一点时,她十分震惊。我指出,真正的自尊意味着最初根本就不在乎成绩是否优秀。真正的自尊意味着对此问题的足够认识:尽管你在成长过程中的一切都在教导你要相信自己,但你所达到的登记,还有那些奖励、成绩、奖品、录取通知书等所有这一切,都不能来定义你是谁(defines who you are)。
她还说,这个年轻的女孩子说哈佛学生把他们的自我效能带到了世界上,如她所说的“创新”(innovative)。但当我问她“创新”意味着什么时,她能够想到的唯一例子不过是“世界大公司五百强的首席执行官”( "being CEO of a Fortune 500")。我告诉她这不是创新,这只是成功(that's just successful),而且是根据非常狭隘的成功定义而认定的成功而已。真正的创新意味着运用你的想象力,发挥你的潜力,创造新的可能性。(True innovation means using your imagination, exercising the capacity to envision new possibilities.)
但这里我并不是在谈论技术创新,不是发明新机器或者制造一种新药,我谈论的是另外一种创新,是创造你自己的生活(inventing your own life)。不是走现成的道路而是创造一条属于自己的道路。(Not following a path, but making your own path.)我谈论的想象力是道德想象力(moral imagination;眠按:这个是心理学专业名词)。“道德”在这里无关对错,而是与选择有关。道德想象力意味着创造自己新生的能力(envision new ways to live your life)。
它意味着不随波逐流(going with the flow),不是下一步要“进入”什么名牌大学或研究生院。而是要弄清楚自己到底想要什么,而不是父母、同伴、学校、或社会想要什么。即确认你自己的价值观(own values),思考迈向自己所定义的成功的道路,而不仅仅是接受别人给你的生活(simply accepting the life that you've been handed),不仅仅是接受别人给你的选择。当今走进星巴克咖啡馆,服务员可能让你在牛奶咖啡(latte)、加糖咖啡(macchiato)、特制咖啡(espresso)等几样东西之间做出选择。但你可以做出另外的选择,你可以转身走出去。当你进入大学,人家给你众多选择,或法律或医学或投资银行和咨询以及其他,但你同样也可以做其他事,做从前根本没有人想过的事(something that no one has thought of before)。

让我再举一个反面的例子。

几年前我写过一篇涉及同类问题的文章。我说,那些在耶鲁和斯坦福这类名校的孩子往往比较谨慎,去追求一些稳妥的奖励。我得到的最常见的批评是:教育项目“为美国而教”(Teach for America)如何?从名校出来的很多学生毕业后很多参与这个教育项目,因此我的观点是错误的。我一再听到TFA这个术语。“为美国而教”当然是好东西,但引用这个项目来反驳我的观点恰恰是不得要领,实际上正好证明了我想说的东西。 “为美国而教”的问题或者“为美国而教”已经成为体系一部分的问题,是它已经成为另外一个需要“进入”的门槛。

从其内容来看,“为美国而教”完全不同于高盛或者麦肯锡公司或哈佛医学院或者伯克利法学院,但从它在精英期待的体系中的地位来说,完全是一样的。它享有盛名,很难进入,是值得你和父母夸耀的东西,如果写在简历上会很好看(it looks good on your résumé),最重要的是,它代表了清晰标记的道路(a clearly marked path.)。你根本不用自己创造,什么都不用做,只需申请然后按要求做就行了,就像上大学或法学院或麦肯锡公司或别的什么。它是社会参与方面的斯坦福或哈佛,是另一个栅栏,另一枚奖章。该项目需要能力和勤奋,但不需要一丁点儿的道德想象力。

道德想象力是困难的,这种困难与你已经习惯的困难完全不同。不仅如此,光有道德想象力还不够。如果你要创造自己的生活(invent your own life),如果你想成为真正的独立思想者(truly autonomous),你还需要勇气:道德勇气(moral courage)。不管别人说什么,有按自己的价值观行动的勇气,不会因为别人不喜欢而试图改变自己的想法。具有道德勇气的个人往往让周围的人感到不舒服。他们和其他人对世界的看法格格不入,更糟糕的是,让别人对自己已经做出的选择感到不安全或无法做出选择。只要别人也不享受自由,人们就不在乎自己被关进监狱。可一旦有人越狱,其他人都会跟着跑出去。
在《青年艺术家的肖像》(A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man)中,詹姆斯•乔伊斯(James Joyce)让主人公斯蒂芬•迪达勒斯(Stephen Dedalus)就19世纪末期的爱尔兰的成长环境说出了如下名言“当一个人的灵魂诞生在这个国家时,有一张大网把它罩住,防止它飞翔。你会给我谈论民族性、语言和宗教。我想冲出这些牢笼。”("When the soul of a man is born in this country there are nets flung at it to hold it back from flight. You talk to me of nationality, language, religion. I shall try to fly by those nets.")

今天,我们面临的是其他的网。
其中之一是我在就这些问题与学生交流时经常听到的一个术语“自我放任”("self-indulgent")。“在攻读学位过程中有这么多事要做的时候(so many other things),试图按照自己的感觉生活难道不是自我放任吗?”“毕业后不去找个真正的工作(getting a real job)而去画画难道不是自我放任吗?”

这些是年轻人只要思考一下稍稍出格(a little bit different)的事就不由自主地质问自己的问题。更糟糕的是,他们觉得提出这些问题是理所应当(feel compelled)的。许多学生在毕业前夕的未来探索中跟我说,他们感受到来自同伴那里的压力(the pressure they felt from their peers),需要为创造性的生活或思想生活辩护(to justify a creative or intellectual life)。好像自己已经走火入魔了似的:抛弃确定无疑的东西是疯了,认为思想生活可行是疯了,想象你有权尝试是疯了。(You're made to feel like you're crazy: crazy to forsake the sure thing, crazy to think it could work, crazy to imagine that you even have a right to try.眠按:“羊霸王”比更外界的压力更厉害。)

想象我们现在面临的局面。这是美国社会的贫困——思想、道德和精神贫困的最明显症状,美国最聪明的年轻人竟然认为听从自己的好奇心行动就是自我放任。你们得到的教导是应该上大学,但你们同时也被告知如果真的想得到教育,那就是“自我放任”。如果你自我教育的话,更糟糕。这是什么道理?进入证券咨询业是不是自我放任?进入金融业是不是自我放任?像许多人那样进入律师界发财是不是自我放任?搞音乐,写文章就不行,因为它不能给人带来利益(what good does that really do anyone)。但为风险投资公司工作就可以。追求自己的理想和激情是自私的,除非它能让你赚很多钱。那样的话,就一点儿也不自私了。(It's selfish to pursue your passion, unless it's also going to make you a lot of money, in which case it's not selfish at all.)

你看到这些观点是多么荒谬了吗?这就是罩在你们身上的网,就是我说的需要勇气的意思。这是永不停息的过程(a never-ending process)。在两年前的哈佛事件中,有个学生谈到我说的大学生需要重新思考人生决定的观点,他说“我们已经做出了决定,我们早在中学时就已经决定成为能够进入哈佛的高材生。”我在想,谁会打算按照他在12岁时做出的决定生活呢?(who wants to live with the decisions that they made when they were 12?) 让我换一种说法,谁愿意让一个12岁的孩子决定他们未来一辈子要做什么呢?或者一个19岁的小毛孩儿?

你能做出的决定是你现在想什么,你需要准备好不断修改自己的决定。
让我说得更明白一些。我不是在试图说服你们都成为音乐家或者作家。成为医生、律师、科学家、工程师或者经济学家没有什么不好,这些都是可靠的、可敬的选择(valid and admirable choices)。我想说的是你需要思考它,认真地思考(think about it hard)。我请求你们做的,是根据正确的理由做出你的选择。我在敦促你们的,是认识到你的道德自由(moral freedom)并热情拥抱它。

最重要的是,不要过分谨慎。(Don't play it safe.)去拒否(RESIST)我们社会给予了过高奖赏的那些卑怯的价值观的诱惑:舒服、方便、安全、可预测的、可控制的。这些,同样是罗网。最重要的是,去拒否失败的恐惧感。是的,你会犯错误。可那是你的错误,不是别人的。你将从错误中缓过来,而且,正是因为这些错误,你更好地认识你自己。由此,你成为更完整和强大的人(a fuller and a stronger person)。
人们常说你们年轻人属于“后情感”一代(a "postemotional" generation),我想我未必赞同这个说法,但这个说法值得严肃对待。你们更愿意规避混乱、动荡和强烈的感情(avoid messy and turbulent and powerful feelings),但我想说,不要回避挑战自我(the challenging parts of yourself),不要否认欲望和好奇心(the desires and curiosities)、怀疑和不满(the doubts and dissatisfactions)、快乐和阴郁(the joy and the darkness),它们可能改变你预设的人生轨迹。大学刚开始,成年时代也才刚开始。打开自己,直面各种可能性吧。这个世界的深广远超你现在想象的边际。这意味着,你自身的深广也将远超你现在的想象。 

Monday, February 28, 2011

The basics of rental car insurance

What's in a name? Rental car insurance by any name will cover you just the same. Whether you buy it from the rental car agency or use your own insurance, you'll be protected from having to pay costly repair bills if you damage the rental company's property. However, there are some intricacies of rental car insurance of which you should be aware in order to make an informed purchasing decision.


Your insurance vs. the rental car company's

Your auto insurance 

Your own collision coverage is "excess" to any other coverage


Your collision insurance coverage in your personal auto insurance policy will likely cover damage you cause to any car that you're driving - including a rental car. However, many auto insurance policies say that your own collision insurance is "excess" to any other coverage, meaning that any coverage you buy from the rental car company kicks in first. In addition, your own collision insurance requires you to pay a deductible before the insurance company picks up the tab.

Your comprehensive coverage will likely apply to any rental car you drive and cover fire, theft, vandalism, or animal collisions. Again, your personal comprehensive coverage is excess coverage and is subject to your deductible.

If you cause an accident, your liability insurance will pay for the damages you cause to someone else, plus any medical expenses that arise from your negligence. Your liability insurance will cover you up to the limits of your policy, and if you were driving a rental at the time of the accident, your personal auto liability insurance, like your comprehensive and collision, will likely be excess coverage.

Rental car company's insurance
Rental car companies such as Alamo, Avis, Enterprise, and Hertz offer various types of insurance and waivers that broaden your liability protection and that can relieve you of the responsibility of paying for a wrecked rental.

Loss damage waivers (LDW) and collision damage waivers (CDW) from the rental company essentially take the place of your own collision and comprehensive insurance, letting you off the hook if the rental is stolen or vandalized, or if you crash the rental car company's vehicle. Some LDWs include the CDW, and some waivers require you to pay a deductible, just like your comprehensive and collision insurance.

Alamo, Avis, Enterprise, and Hertz insist that the waivers are not insurance. (In order for these to be true insurance, you have to purchase them through an insurance company. This option is not underwritten or sold by an insurance company, but it's the rental car company's version of comprehensive and collision insurance.) Cost: between $7 and $25 per day, depending on the rental car company and what kind of car you rent.

Alamo, Enterprise, and Hertz offer liability insurance supplements that will cover you for up to $1 million if you cause an accident, damage property, or injure others. This coverage has a "combined single limit," meaning the insurer will pay no more than $1 million for bodily injury and property damages. If you purchase this insurance from the rental car company, it becomes your primary liability insurance. Your own personal auto liability insurance is, again, relegated to excess-coverage status. Cost: between $7 and $15 per day, depending on where you rent.

You can also purchase accidental death and personal property insurance from your rental car company. Enterprise, for example, provides Personal Accident Insurance (PAI), which pays out a death benefit of $100,000 for the driver of the rental vehicle, whether you're in or out of the car. For example, if you slip in the bathtub and die during the time you're renting the car, the accidental death benefit pays out. It also provides a $10,000 death benefit for passengers who are killed while in the rental. Further, the PAI will pay for up to $3,500 in medical expenses for both you and your passengers. Cost: between $1 and $5 per day, depending on the rental car company.

Alamo, Enterprise, and Hertz also offer "limited" coverage for your personal property that might get stolen out of the rental vehicle.

To buy or not to buy

Making sense (and cents) out of all the coverages you already have on your auto insurance and the ones that are offered by the rental companies is not easy. Buying all of the insurance offered from a rental car company can double your rental costs. Buying none of it might put you in a bad financial spot if you have an accident. Here are some factors to keep in mind.


If you don't have your own collision coverage, buying the LDW is a good idea.


If you don't have collision and comprehensive insurance and you're renting a car, it's a good idea to purchase the LDW or CDW, whichever your rental company offers. You might want to buy the waiver that offers you the broadest protection in this situation. Rental companies have several levels of damage waivers. For example, Alamo provides three levels of coverage: you're not responsible for any damage; you're responsible for damage that exceeds $500; you're responsible for damage that exceeds $3,000.

Of course, the broader the coverage, the more you're going to pay. Enterprise's partial CDW, for example, requires you to pay a deductible (which varies by state). That costs $6.99 per day. Enterprise's full CDW costs $16.99 per day, but you aren't responsible for paying a deductible. All of Hertz's LDWs are deductible-free.

You might eschew the LDW altogether if you have collision and comprehensive coverage because you'd be paying for "double coverage." Just remember that you have to cough up your deductible if the car is stolen or vandalized, or if you crash it.

You who don't own cars will likely find the supplemental liability insurance offered by the rental companies valuable if you don't already have a nonowners auto insurance policy (For more, see No car, no problem.) The cost compared to the coverage is pretty good, but keep this in mind: Most states require the rental companies to automatically provide at least the minimum required liability coverage at no charge to you.

In this situation, you won't have to purchase any insurance from the rental company to get some liability coverage. If you feel that you can get by with just the bare-bones policy, you won't spend a dime on liability insurance. (For more, click to your state's minimum auto liability requirements.)

Got your own liability insurance? In this scenario, it will generally kick in first if you cause an accident. And remember, there's no deductible for liability insurance.

Rental car company offerings of accidental death and personal property insurance give you needless "double coverage" if you already have health, homeowners or renters, and life insurance. Typically, your health insurance (or auto insurance if you have MedPay) will kick in for your medical costs, regardless of what car you're driving. Your homeowners or renters policy normally covers personal property if it's stolen or damaged while in your car. And your life insurance will pay out, regardless of how you meet your end.

To sum up

Before you rent a vehicle, check your auto and homeowners or renters policies to get an idea of what coverage you have while in the rented vehicle. And while at the rental car company, take some time to find out exactly what they offer. Compare those coverages to the ones you already have. That way, you can avoid buying coverage you don't need.

Source: Insurance Information Institute Reprinted with permission of Insure.com, the copyright holder. http://www.insure.com

Friday, January 21, 2011

Harvard Commencement Speech by Drew Gilpin Faust

亲爱的同学们:
    你们好!
    早在2007年冬天,助理就告诉我要有这么一个演讲。我没有什么准备,只是想随便与大家聊聊,或许对你们以后会有帮助。
    为什么我们的学生很多都去了华尔街?
     当我在Kirkland吃中午饭的时候,在Leverett吃晚饭的时候,当我在我上班时和同学们见面的时候,甚至当我在国外碰见我们刚毕业的学生的时候,同学们都会问我一些问题。你们问我的第一个问题,不是课程计划,不是提建议,也不是问老师的联系方式或者学生的空间问题。实际上,也不是酒精限制政策。你们不停地问我的问题是:“为什么我们的学生很多都去了华尔街?为什么我们哈佛的学生中,有那么多人到金融、咨询和电子银行领域去?”

     这个问题可以从好几个方面来回答,当威利萨顿(一个美国银行大盗)被问到为什么要抢银行时,他说“因为那儿有钱”。我想,你们在上经济学课的时候,都见过克劳迪亚·戈丁和拉里·凯兹两位教授,他们根据70年代以来他们所教学生的职业选择,提出了不同的看法。他们发现,虽然金融行业在金钱方面有很高回报,但还是有学生选择了其他工作。实际上,你们中有37个人选择做教师,有一个会跳探戈的人要去阿根廷的舞蹈诊疗所上班,另一个拿了数学荣誉学位的人要去学诗歌,有一个要在美国空军受训做一名飞行员,还有一个要去做一名治疗乳房癌症的医生。你们中有很多人会去学法学、学医学、读研究生。但是,根据戈丁和凯兹的记录,更多的人去了金融和咨询行业。Crimson对去年的毕业生作了调查,参加工作的人中,58%的男生和43%的女生去了这两个行业。虽然今年的经济不景气,这个数字还是到了39%。
     高薪、不可抗拒的招聘的冲击、到纽约和你的朋友一起工作的保证、承诺工作很有趣——这样的选择可以有很多种理由。对于你们中的一些人,也许只会在其中做一到两年。其他人也都相信这是他们可以做到最好的一份工作。但,还是有人会问:为什么要这样选择。其实,比起回答你们的问题来,我更喜欢思考你们为什么会问。戈丁和凯兹教授的研究是不是正确的;到金融行业是不是就是“理性的选择”;你们为什么会不停地问我这个问题?为什么这个看似理性的选择,却会让你们许多人无法理解,觉得不尽理性,甚至有的会觉得是被迫作出的必要的选择?为什么这个问题会困扰这么多人呢?
     我认为,你们问我生活的意义的时候,是带着指向性的——你们把它看成是高级职业选择中可见、可衡量的现象,而不是一种抽象而深不可测的、形而上学的尴尬境地。所谓“生活的意义”已经被说滥了——它就像是蒙提·派森(MontyPython)电影里可笑的标题,或者说是《辛普森一家》里的那些鸡零狗碎的话题一样,已经没有任何严肃的含义了。
  
      你们之所以焦虑,是因为你们既想活得有意义,又想活得成功
      让我们暂时扔掉哈佛人精明的处世能力、沉着和不可战胜的虚伪,试着来寻找一下你们问题的答案吧。

      我想,你们之所以会焦虑,是因为你们不想只是做到一般意义上的成功,而且还想过得有意义。但你们又不知道这两个目标如何才能同时达到,你们不知道在一个大名鼎鼎的公司中有一份丰厚的起薪,并且前途很有保障,是不是就可以让你们自己满足。

      你们为什么要焦虑?说起来,我们学校这方面也有错。从你们进来的时候,我们就告诉你们,到这里,你们会成为对未来负责的精英,你们是最棒的、最聪明的,我们都要依靠你们,因为你们会改变这个世界。这些话,让你们个个都胸怀大志。你们会去做各种不平常的事情:在课外活动中,你们处处体现着服务的热情;你们大力倡导可持续发展,因为你们关注地球的未来;在今年的总统竞选中,你们也表现出了对美国政治改革的热衷。但现在,你们中的许多人迷惘了,不知道这些在作职业选择时都有什么用。如果在有偿的工作和有意义的工作之间作个选择,你们会怎么办?这二者可以兼顾吗?

      你们都在不停地问我一些最基本的问题:关于价值、试图调和那些潜在竞争的东西、对鱼与熊掌不可兼得的认识等等。现在的你们,到了要作出选择的转换阶段。作出一个选择——或工作、或读研——都意味着失去了选择其他选项的机会。每次决定都会有舍有得——放弃一个可能的同时,你也赢得了其他可能。对于我来说,你们的问题差不多就等于是站在十字路口时的迷茫。

      金融业、华尔街、“招聘”就是这个困境的标志,它带来了比职业选择更广更深的一系列问题。不管你是从医学院毕业当了全科医生或者皮肤科医生,从法学院毕业进了一家公司或者成了一名公设辩护律师,还是结束了两年的Teach for America项目,在想要不要继续教书,这些问题总会在某种程度上困扰你们。你们之所以焦虑,是因为你们既想活得有意义,又想活得成功;你们知道你们所受的教育,让你们不只是为自己的舒适和满足而活,而且还要为你们周围的人而活。现在,到了你们想办法实现这个目标的时候了。
     我想,还有一个原因使你们焦虑——这个原因和第一个原因相关,但又有所不同。你们想过得幸福。你们一拥而上地去选修“成功哲学”和“幸福的科学”,想从中找到秘诀。但我们怎么样才能幸福呢?我可以提供一个不错的答案:长大。调查数据说明,越老的人——比如我这个岁数的人——比年轻的人感到更幸福。但可能你们都不愿意等。

     当我听着你们说你们面前有如何的选择时,可以听出来,你们在为搞不明白成功和幸福的关系而烦恼——或者更确切地说,什么样的成功,不仅能带来金钱和名望,还能让人真正地幸福。你们担心工资最高的工作,不一定是最有意义、最令人满足的工作。但你们想过没有,艺术家、演员、公务员或者高中老师都是怎么过的?你们有没有思考一下,在媒体圈里该怎么生存?你们是否曾试想过,在经过不知道多少年的研究生学习、写了不知道多少篇论文之后,你们能否找到一个英语教授的工作?

     所以,答案就是:只有试过了才知道。但是不管是画画、生物还是金融,如果你都不试着去做你喜欢做的事,如果你不去追求你认为最有意义的东西,总有一天你会后悔的。生活的路还很长,总有机会尝试别的选择,但不要一开始就想着这个。 
     先到你想去的地方,然后再到你应该去的地方
     我把这个叫做职业选择中的停车位理论,几十年来我一直在和同学们说这些。不要因为你觉得会没有停车位,就把车停在离目的地20个街区远的地方。先到你想去的地方,然后再到你应该去的地方。

     你可能喜欢投资银行、喜欢金融、喜欢咨询,它们可能是最适合你的。也许你和我在Kirkland碰到的一位大四学生一样,她刚从西海岸一家很有名的咨询公司面试回来,她问:“我为什么要做这行?我讨厌坐飞机,我不喜欢住酒店,我不会喜欢这个工作的。”那就找个你喜欢的工作吧。要是你醒着的时间里,都在做你不喜欢的事情,你也不会感到幸福的。

     但是,最最最最重要的是,你们要问这个问题——问我或者问你们自己。你们选择了一条路,也就选择了一份挑战。你知道自己想要什么样的生活,只是不知道该怎样到达那儿。这是好事。我觉得,从某种程度上说,这也是我们的错。关注你的生活,思考怎样才能把它过好,怎样才能把事情做对:这些也许是博雅教育给你最宝贵的东西。通识教育让你自觉地生活,让你在你所做的一切中寻找、定义价值。它也让你成为一个自我的分析家和批评家,让你从最高水平上掌握你生活的展示方式。从这个意义上讲,博雅教育让你自由。它们赋予你行动、发现价值和作出选择的能力。不要静止不动,要随时准备接受改变。牢记那些我们告诉你们的远大理想,就算你觉得它们永远不可能实现,也要记住:它们可以指引你们,让你们到达那个对自己和世界都有意义的彼岸。你们的未来在自己手中。

路一样,不一样是态度

艾小羊:

    我在家乡有个男朋友,他个子不是很高,有点胖,工作一般,也不是很上进,但脾气超好,对我也很好,并且很会做家务,尤其很会做菜,恋家,无不良嗜好,我觉得他是做老公的好人选。今年大学毕业后,我回到了家乡,跟他在一起很踏实。但我妈觉得我在自毁前程,她想让我去考研究生,而且要供我出国留学,她认为我应该留在大城市,有更好的前途。我现在很矛盾,其实我不是个非要在事业上做出什么的女孩,挺留恋安稳小日子的,如果按我妈选择的路,我担心自己去了大城市,再也找不到这么适合做老公的男人,变成剩女,而且大城市又不是有个好工作等着我,一切都是未知,都要靠我自己奋斗,用我同学的话说是“不好混呐”,可是,如果留在家乡,跟他结婚,我又怕以后他没现在这么好,我会很后悔,觉得为他付出这么多不值得,而且说实话,我比较虚荣,不希望自己的日子过得比别人差。

    我现在每天都在想这些问题,越想越头疼。这个选择会决定我的一生,所以我很怕自己成为小说中那种因为一步走错而“悔恨终生”的悲剧人物。看过你的一些文章,觉得你阅历很深,你一定能帮我。多谢。                                                                                                                                                                                                                     小亭





    多年前的某电视台,几个要好的男生不堪忍受资方盘剥,相约跳槽。然而,他们中间出现了一个“叛徒”,他偷偷选择了留下。其他人走后,他成了独苗苗香馍馍,薪水水涨船高。叛徒名为梁朝伟,义士的带头大哥叫刘德华。多年后,无论叛徒还是义士,都过得不错,即使星途黯淡的苗侨伟,也在接受采访时,自豪地说,我比华仔有更多的时间陪伴太太与孩子。在这个与选择有关的经典案例中,你觉得谁是失败者,谁应该后悔?

    去年,我楼下住进了一个“硬币男”。他曾经像刘青云在电影《购物狂》中饰演的那个角色一样,患有选择恐惧症。点一份快餐要花费半个小时,好像点错了会死一样。自从他决定让硬币决定一切,便成了姑娘们眼中的超级型男。不仅因为他抛硬币的姿势挺帅,更重要的是,即使硬币帮他选择的猪扒饭上的猪扒硬得像猪皮,他也吃得津津有味。他说,选择好痛苦哦,如果有人(硬币)帮我做选择,刀山火海我都认了。现在的他从不觉得自己的某项选择有什么错,除非口袋里忘了放硬币。

    你觉得我阅历深,一定能帮你做一个正确的选择,我觉得你有点天真,像我这样的老油条是不可能真正帮你做什么选择的。因为我很清楚,某一个选择,能够决定的只是我们的生活方式,而不是一生的悲喜,人生悲喜正如呼吸,无论你走哪一条道路,都会阴魂不散地跟着你,既然不能同时走两条道路,也就很难比较哪条路上的悲更少喜更多。真正意义上能够决定一生的选择只有杀人放火做强盗这种事,但那叫一失足成千古恨。显然,你面临的不是这样的问题。你面前的两条路都是光明的,却各自精彩,难得完美。如果是兔子或者随便什么动物,事情就好办多了,它们会毫不犹豫地选择当下。所以,动物从不患选择恐惧症,它们吃第一时间到手的食物,不在乎隔两秒钟扔下的那个食盒里是不是有更好吃或更丰富的食品。

    “选择即是放弃”,阻碍人类做出选择的,不是路径本身,而是贪婪之心。每一种生活方式都有利弊,每一条路上都有鲜花与荆棘,何况同样的路,不同的人有不同的走法,有人能把没路的地方走出路来,有人却能把康庄大道走成羊肠小道。快乐是一种能力,让自己选择的每一条路上都站着开满鲜花的树则是一种心态。信看到这儿,你可以拿出一枚硬币,正面是留在小城,反面是出国留学,然后很拉风地将它高高抛起,如果一次不过瘾再来第二次,三局两胜,五局三胜或者十局六胜,一百局五十一胜,直到出现你想要的结果。我相信,对于这两条路,你内心的天平其实早有倾斜,只是需要一个巫婆或神棍替你证实。

    最后,老油条要告诉你告诉你最最重要的一点,当你开始跟男朋友留在小城市过安稳小日子,一定不要一天到晚幻想你去美国留学,能够邂逅比尔盖茨的儿子。这个世界上,完全正确的选择是不存在的,我们所能做的最正确的选择,就是永远认为自己的选择很正确。故意把话说得这么拗口,是为了加强记忆。祝前途光明!

                                                                                                                    艾小羊

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Soulmate by Deepak Chopra

Every soul wants to be sen, but some are more disguised than others.
Love isn't a mere sentiment. It contains truth, and therefore it is law.
Love conforms to our vion. You'll always get whatyou want, so have the esire for the highest love you can imagine.
The only prefect lov eis beyond the persona. If you want to give someone your greatest love, first see beyond that person. If you want to receive the greatest love, see yourself beond the person.
Devine ove exists. It is expressed through human beings.
The love that comes from your soul endures death.
Don't believe anything is more real than your soul.
Love isn't something you feel. It is something you become. This is the truth, but never the whole story. No matter how many times you've felt it, love will always remain infinite and mysterious. Like God, love runs ahead of us, and just when we think we've caught up, it slips farther ahead.
You seek detachment not so that nothing can touch you, but so that you have enough spae to find out what is real. Be in the world but not of it.
If you feel about me the way I feel about you, you'll know why I'm here.
Lovers often romanticize that karma brought them together.
When you can look down and see yourself, you know it's just a role.
Every person is as deep as a well. But men keep the well capped.

A neurotic is someone who builds castles in the air; a psychotic is someone who moves into them. The punch line is, "And a psychiatrist is someone who gathers the rent."
If we haven't made promises to people, they don't notice us; they don't attach. We are together because we promised to be. A promise lasts as long as it keeps your soul alive. 
Souls fly together and asunder. No one is new to anyone else. No one is a stranger to anyone else. The dance is eternal, and our only choice is how long to spend with the partners who fascinate us.
Death is a leap of the soul.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

"We are What We Choose"

Remarks by Jeff Bezos, as delivered to the Class of 2010
Baccalaureate
May 30, 2010
As a kid, I spent my summers with my grandparents on their ranch in Texas. I helped fix windmills, vaccinate cattle, and do other chores. We also watched soap operas every afternoon, especially "Days of our Lives." My grandparents belonged to a Caravan Club, a group of Airstream trailer owners who travel together around the U.S. and Canada. And every few summers, we'd join the caravan. We'd hitch up the Airstream trailer to my grandfather's car, and off we'd go, in a line with 300 other Airstream adventurers. I loved and worshipped my grandparents and I really looked forward to these trips. On one particular trip, I was about 10 years old. I was rolling around in the big bench seat in the back of the car. My grandfather was driving. And my grandmother had the passenger seat. She smoked throughout these trips, and I hated the smell.
At that age, I'd take any excuse to make estimates and do minor arithmetic. I'd calculate our gas mileage -- figure out useless statistics on things like grocery spending. I'd been hearing an ad campaign about smoking. I can't remember the details, but basically the ad said, every puff of a cigarette takes some number of minutes off of your life: I think it might have been two minutes per puff. At any rate, I decided to do the math for my grandmother. I estimated the number of cigarettes per days, estimated the number of puffs per cigarette and so on. When I was satisfied that I'd come up with a reasonable number, I poked my head into the front of the car, tapped my grandmother on the shoulder, and proudly proclaimed, "At two minutes per puff, you've taken nine years off your life!"
I have a vivid memory of what happened, and it was not what I expected. I expected to be applauded for my cleverness and arithmetic skills. "Jeff, you're so smart. You had to have made some tricky estimates, figure out the number of minutes in a year and do some division." That's not what happened. Instead, my grandmother burst into tears. I sat in the backseat and did not know what to do. While my grandmother sat crying, my grandfather, who had been driving in silence, pulled over onto the shoulder of the highway. He got out of the car and came around and opened my door and waited for me to follow. Was I in trouble? My grandfather was a highly intelligent, quiet man. He had never said a harsh word to me, and maybe this was to be the first time? Or maybe he would ask that I get back in the car and apologize to my grandmother. I had no experience in this realm with my grandparents and no way to gauge what the consequences might be. We stopped beside the trailer. My grandfather looked at me, and after a bit of silence, he gently and calmly said, "Jeff, one day you'll understand that it's harder to be kind than clever."
What I want to talk to you about today is the difference between gifts and choices. Cleverness is a gift, kindness is a choice. Gifts are easy -- they're given after all. Choices can be hard. You can seduce yourself with your gifts if you're not careful, and if you do, it'll probably be to the detriment of your choices.
This is a group with many gifts. I'm sure one of your gifts is the gift of a smart and capable brain. I'm confident that's the case because admission is competitive and if there weren't some signs that you're clever, the dean of admission wouldn't have let you in.
Your smarts will come in handy because you will travel in a land of marvels. We humans -- plodding as we are -- will astonish ourselves. We'll invent ways to generate clean energy and a lot of it. Atom by atom, we'll assemble tiny machines that will enter cell walls and make repairs. This month comes the extraordinary but also inevitable news that we've synthesized life. In the coming years, we'll not only synthesize it, but we'll engineer it to specifications. I believe you'll even see us understand the human brain. Jules Verne, Mark Twain, Galileo, Newton -- all the curious from the ages would have wanted to be alive most of all right now. As a civilization, we will have so many gifts, just as you as individuals have so many individual gifts as you sit before me.
How will you use these gifts? And will you take pride in your gifts or pride in your choices?
I got the idea to start Amazon 16 years ago. I came across the fact that Web usage was growing at 2,300 percent per year. I'd never seen or heard of anything that grew that fast, and the idea of building an online bookstore with millions of titles -- something that simply couldn't exist in the physical world -- was very exciting to me. I had just turned 30 years old, and I'd been married for a year. I told my wife MacKenzie that I wanted to quit my job and go do this crazy thing that probably wouldn't work since most startups don't, and I wasn't sure what would happen after that. MacKenzie (also a Princeton grad and sitting here in the second row) told me I should go for it. As a young boy, I'd been a garage inventor. I'd invented an automatic gate closer out of cement-filled tires, a solar cooker that didn't work very well out of an umbrella and tinfoil, baking-pan alarms to entrap my siblings. I'd always wanted to be an inventor, and she wanted me to follow my passion.
I was working at a financial firm in New York City with a bunch of very smart people, and I had a brilliant boss that I much admired. I went to my boss and told him I wanted to start a company selling books on the Internet. He took me on a long walk in Central Park, listened carefully to me, and finally said, "That sounds like a really good idea, but it would be an even better idea for someone who didn't already have a good job." That logic made some sense to me, and he convinced me to think about it for 48 hours before making a final decision. Seen in that light, it really was a difficult choice, but ultimately, I decided I had to give it a shot. I didn't think I'd regret trying and failing. And I suspected I would always be haunted by a decision to not try at all. After much consideration, I took the less safe path to follow my passion, and I'm proud of that choice.
Tomorrow, in a very real sense, your life -- the life you author from scratch on your own -- begins.
How will you use your gifts? What choices will you make?
Will inertia be your guide, or will you follow your passions?
Will you follow dogma, or will you be original?
Will you choose a life of ease, or a life of service and adventure?
Will you wilt under criticism, or will you follow your convictions?
Will you bluff it out when you're wrong, or will you apologize?
Will you guard your heart against rejection, or will you act when you fall in love?
Will you play it safe, or will you be a little bit swashbuckling?
When it's tough, will you give up, or will you be relentless?
Will you be a cynic, or will you be a builder?
Will you be clever at the expense of others, or will you be kind?
I will hazard a prediction. When you are 80 years old, and in a quiet moment of reflection narrating for only yourself the most personal version of your life story, the telling that will be most compact and meaningful will be the series of choices you have made. In the end, we are our choices. Build yourself a great story. Thank you and good luck!

我一直相信每一个人都有自己的天赋,每一个人的存在都代表着宇宙空间中的一种唯一,然而令我经常都在深思的是,既然我们都是这样的独特,又为何偏偏要去模仿和畸变成拥有同类“基因”的人呢?为什么我们中的很多人都不愿意去追逐属于自己的理想,或者不能为此奋斗一生呢,抑或者一生都是在自欺欺人的辩解?在Randy的The Last Lecture中我深深的感受到了一个人追逐自己最初理想的意义会变得如此的伟大,充满的是一种人生最大的和最根本的价值。一直在想这样的一个问题,当社会尚且艰难,生活尚且苦难的日子里都有如此多人在追逐属于自己梦想的时候;在一个生活舒适,物质条件优越的年代我们竟然不知所措的迷失掉自己的方向,找不到自己前行的路。这是多么可悲和可笑的一种境况!我们,有了更高的天赋,有了更好的环境,却因为有更多的选择而抹杀了我们自己的梦...这确实让人觉得不可思议!
我相信每个人都有自己最初的梦想,在这样的一个年代,在这样一个至少没有饥寒交迫的时代,我坚信追逐自己理想的人会获得生命尽头最高贵的礼物和人生最大的价值!
记:在一个可以实现最初梦想的时代选择不可以的沉默必将是这个时代最损失的损失,也必将是生活在这个时代的人最遗憾的遗憾...
中文译稿
在我还是一个孩子的时候,我的夏天总是在德州祖父母的农场中度过。我帮忙修理风车,为牛接种疫苗,也做其它家务。每天下午,我们都会看肥皂剧,尤其是《我们的岁月》。我的祖父母参加了一个房车俱乐部,那是一群驾驶Airstream拖挂型房车的人们,他们结伴遍游美国和加拿大。每隔几个夏天,我也会加入他们。我们把房车挂在祖父的小汽车后面,然后加入300余名Airstream探险者们组成的浩荡队伍。
我爱我的祖父母,我崇敬他们,也真心期盼这些旅程。那是一次我大概十岁时的旅行,我照例坐在后座的长椅上,祖父开着车,祖母坐在他旁边,吸着烟。我讨厌烟味。
在那样的年纪,我会找任何借口做些估测或者小算术。我会计算油耗还有杂货花销等鸡毛蒜皮的小事。我听过一个有关吸烟的广告。我记不得细节了,但是广告大意是说,每吸一口香烟会减少几分钟的寿命,大概是两分钟。无论如何,我决定为祖母做个算术。我估测了祖母每天要吸几支香烟,每支香烟要吸几口等等,然后心满意足地得出了一个合理的数字。接着,我捅了捅坐在前面的祖母的头,又拍了拍她的肩膀,然后骄傲地宣称,“每天吸两分钟的烟,你就少活九年!”
我清晰地记得接下来发生了什么,而那是我意料之外的。我本期待着小聪明和算术技巧能赢得掌声,但那并没有发生。相反,我的祖母哭泣起来。我的祖父之前一直在默默开车,把车停在了路边,走下车来,打开了我的车门,等着我跟他下车。我惹麻烦了吗?我的祖父是一个智慧而安静的人。他从来没有对我说过严厉的话,难道这会是第一次?还是他会让我回到车上跟祖母道歉?我以前从未遇到过这种状况,因而也无从知晓会有什么后果发生。我们在房车旁停下来。祖父注视着我,沉默片刻,然后轻轻地、平静地说:“杰夫,有一天你会明白,善良比聪明更难。”
选择比天赋更重要
今天我想对你们说的是,天赋和选择不同。聪明是一种天赋,而善良是一种选择。天赋得来很容易——毕竟它们与生俱来。而选择则颇为不易。如果一不小心,你可能被天赋所诱惑,这可能会损害到你做出的选择。
在座各位都拥有许多天赋。我确信你们的天赋之一就是拥有精明能干的头脑。之所以如此确信,是因为入学竞争十分激烈,如果你们不能表现出聪明智慧,便没有资格进入这所学校。
你们的聪明才智必定会派上用场,因为你们将在一片充满奇迹的土地上行进。我们人类,尽管跬步前行,却终将令自己大吃一惊。我们能够想方设法制造清洁能源,也能够一个原子一个原子地组装微型机械,使之穿过细胞壁,然后修复细胞。这个月,有一个异常而不可避免的事情发生了——人类终于合成了生命。在未来几年,我们不仅会合成生命,还会按说明书驱动它们。我相信你们甚至会看到我们理解人类的大脑,儒勒·凡尔纳,马克·吐温,伽利略,牛顿——所有那些充满好奇之心的人都希望能够活到现在。作为文明人,我们会拥有如此之多的天赋,就像是坐在我面前的你们,每一个生命个体都拥有许多独特的天赋。
你们要如何运用这些天赋呢?你们会为自己的天赋感到骄傲,还是会为自己的选择感到骄傲?
追随自己内心的热情
16年前,我萌生了创办亚马逊的想法。彼时我面对的现实是互联网使用量以每年2300%的速度增长,我从未看到或听说过任何增长如此快速的东西。创建涵盖几百万种书籍的网上书店的想法令我兴奋异常,因为这个东西在物理世界里根本无法存在。那时我刚刚30岁,结婚才一年。
我告诉妻子MacKenzie想辞去工作,然后去做这件疯狂的事情,很可能会失败,因为大部分创业公司都是如此,而且我不确定那之后会发生什么。MacKenzie告诉我,我应该放手一搏。在我还是一个男孩儿的时候,我是车库发明家。我曾用水泥填充的轮胎、雨伞和锡箔以及报警器制作了一个自动关门器。我一直想做一个发明家,MacKenzie支持我追随内心的热情。
我当时在纽约一家金融公司工作,同事是一群非常聪明的人,我的老板也很有智慧,我很羡慕他。我告诉我的老板我想开办一家在网上卖书的公司。他带我在中央公园漫步良久,认真地听我讲完,最后说:“听起来真是一个很好的主意,但是对那些目前没有谋到一份好工作的人来说,这个主意会更好。”
这一逻辑对我而言颇有道理,他说服我在最终作出决定之前再考虑48小时。那样想来,这个决定确实很艰难,但是最终,我决定拼一次。我认为自己不会为尝试过后的失败而遗憾,倒是有所决定但完全不付诸行动会一直煎熬着我。在深思熟虑之后,我选择了那条不安全的道路,去追随我内心的热情。我为那个决定感到骄傲。
明天,非常现实地说,你们从零塑造自己人生的时代即将开启。
你们会如何运用自己的天赋?你们又会作出怎样的抉择?
你们是被惯性所引导,还是追随自己内心的热情?
你们会墨守陈规,还是勇于创新?
你们会选择安逸的生活,还是选择一个奉献与冒险的人生?
你们会屈从于批评,还是会坚守信念?
你们会掩饰错误,还是会坦诚道歉?
你们会因害怕拒绝而掩饰内心,还是会在面对爱情时勇往直前?
你们想要波澜不惊,还是想要搏击风浪?
你们会在严峻的现实之下选择放弃,还是会义无反顾地前行?
你们要做愤世嫉俗者,还是踏实的建设者?
你们要不计一切代价地展示聪明,还是选择善良?
我要做一个预测:在你们80岁时某个追忆往昔的时刻,只有你一个人静静对内心诉说着你的人生故事,其中最为充实、最有意义的那段讲述,会被你们作出的一系列决定所填满。最后,是选择塑造了我们的人生。为你自己塑造一个伟大的人生故事。
谢谢,祝你们好运!